Is this the death of my own perceived feminism?

Now I'm not saying that I am (or ever was) a feminist - hell, I love nothing more than having a man open a door for me or pull out a chair, or stand up if I leave the table during dinner - I don't understand women who berate men for doing these things - I think, more than anything, it's a polite respect that is missing in today's society. However, there are some aspects of feminism that I was seriously on board with, things like equal pay for equal work and employment opportunity irregardless of gender.

During my travels, the radio provides me with limitless entertainment and lately, I've found myself listening to quite a bit of talk radio when I can tune it in. More specifically, I've been listening to Dr. Laura, if you can imagine. I know, I know, to the feminist world, she is the anti-thesis of all that women have been striving to achieve over the past 50 or so years, but lately, I'm starting to see her point.

Before you gasp in shock and want to send me to the gallows, hear me out. She basically encourages women to look at how they treat people (generally men) and teaches people to look at their own faults before lashing out at the faults of others. Today I was listening in the morning and she said something that made me really think for the rest of the day. She told a woman who was calling to complain about her boyfriend that she needed to love him as though she'd never been hurt. This rang true for me and I found myself nodding in agreement as she proceeded to say that women hold on to the "crap" that happens to them in the past and it prevents them from really recognizing or allowing themselves to be open to the positive things that can happen to them in the present and the future. It got me thinking about all of my friends who've been hurt in relationships (heck, I've been there too), and how easy it is to get trapped in the "crap" and to end up constantly wondering if the person you're now with is going to do the same thing. We, as a society, need to learn to let things go! Live in the moment and give the people that you're with the benefit of the doubt before you automatically assume the worst - because if we don't, we're not going to see a decrease in the divorce rate anytime soon and all of our relationships will be doomed to past failure before they even begin. So tonight, when Chris gets home, I'm going to give him a kiss and tell him that I'm lucky. I'm lucky because I'm now aware of the "crap" and I've stepped around it...